Good humor makes all things possible.
-Charles Schultz-

With mirth and laughter let old wrinkles come.
-Shakespeare-The Merchant of Venice-

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Every New Year is the direct descendant, isn't it, of a long line of proven criminals?

--Ogden Nash

In 2012 I managed to offend a few people, mostly by having humanistic social views.  One of the people who still likes me the way I am is my sweet grandson Brody.  I am unlikely to amend my personal constitution, having long ago determined that my moral compass is pointing me in the right direction, but if I've made a new year's resolution, that is to keep my more controversial feelings to myself.  My goal is a report card which displays "plays well with others" with a big checkmark next to it. 

I used to point out to my endlessly squabbling children that they were quite free to STOP ARGUING because of course, it is impossible for ONE person to argue.  As incentive, I was careful to emphasize that the first person to be quiet is essentially the winner.  Also, all parents hate listening to children argue almost as much as they hate listening to a baby cry at three in the morning.  I would have promised them anything.

It's important for everyone me to remember that arguing has never changed anyone's mind, no matter how sincerely we believe it's the only thing that will change anyone's mind.  

It's been four years since all the kids and I have taken a picture together, and it never gets any easier to pick one that we all like.  If I had known that they were all smiling and not hitting, I would have pulled in my stomach and tried to look more festive.  And yes, that is brown paper taped all over the carpet and walls; Annie's house was being painted over the holidays.

Mister Carson enjoyed decorating the tree, and also enjoyed undecorating it.  
The kitten (who continues to grow at an alarming rate) thinks I am perfect and agrees with me about almost everything, except pestering the other cats.

You remember the parable of the dog in the manger; all the cats wanted simultaneous access to the sink, but none of them wished to share or take turns.  Mister Carson is the pushiest and bulkiest, so he commandeered my [shamefully cluttered] bathroom counter while the other two hung around and complained and were grumpy.  This was just moments before someone took the first swat; ending the fragile cease-fire for the three hundredth time in the two months he's been here.

2013 has to be the year I get out of my own way and go back to work; it's either that or the whole house of cards comes down.  If I get a haircut, a new watch battery, and renew my CPR certification, I should be ready to go.  If it ends up being as easy as it looks on paper, you'll read about it here.  If it's much harder than that, though, I may keep it to myself.


  1. I admire you very much for your resolutions...and I have no doubt you can achieve that "plays well with others." Myself? Not so much. But I think I might start blocking a few people on Facebook (not you or anyone in our cadre) so I can go around without gritting my teeth quite so much. I think I liked it better when I had a completely unrealistic and rosy opinion of the vast majority of the people I know. They aren't really "friends" anyway, right?

  2. I'm right with you, Jenny :-) I'm a bleeding heart liberal, even now when it appears to be the equivalent of a swear word. And I'm not shy about letting people know (although I do try to do it politely). I can't decide which is cuter --the photo of you and your grandson, or the kitten in the Christmas clutter :-)

    And Amy, I HAVE blocked people on FB --that's supposed to be an enjoyable activity, so there is no reason for me to have to deal with those silly conservative people.

  3. I think more people should try to play well with others, though you don't strike me as someone who'd struggle in that area.
    Oh! That fat cat in the sink!

  4. I am in love with Mr Carson. Happy New Year!

  5. I recently discovered your blog (from Derfwad Manor!) and love your writing. I too have decided to adopt the goal of playing well with others and keeping my mouth closed more often! And have blocked at least one person on FB (very right leaning tea drinking...), no need to let me bp rise over one person's writings.

    Love the picture of your cats. I have three and two dogs, someone is always right at hand. Happy New Year to you!!